What I want you to know Pt 1

Alba You are incredible. Really bright, kind and loving. You are so much fun, you’re nearly three and currently experimenting with humour, tone and inflection. You catch a phrase so easily and turn them quickly, uniquely. I want you to play to your strengths: confidence and communication will always be assets, but seek joy andContinue reading “What I want you to know Pt 1”

Home – in draft

Meeting mothers at the mothers meetings, finding each other, there online, Night support, Sharing war stories, Torn and refashioned histories, Most have dips of depression, Deep conflicting feelings of love and loss, Seas crossing, Creating tidal waves, Out from land, without oars, No knowing if we can get back to before, A reckoning, Because probablyContinue reading “Home – in draft”

I rebel

Sit in the surf,The last hours’ tide of toys,Books, crumbs,Lapping,My,Feet.A swell of dishes,Bubbling at the sink.Washing frothing from theLaundry bag,The linen basket,Piles,Heaps.I rebel,Chose not another futile missionTidying, turning,Fun into done,To be undone.I rebel,Choose to put wordsTo this rouseA scamI am more than machine,Beach sweep,Care giver,I choose a new horizon,Flatten a crease,New pages, new ways,I leaveContinue reading “I rebel”

Not a holiday, an Adventure

Parenting in another location,With less of our things,More unknownNew danger,And ExcitementUs, a Family of four,Stitch our belongings to the land,To another family of three,Long loops and trip wires,Pop up, fold out, every thing,So smug to have a kitchen, A wardrobe.Make believe and honesty boxes,Orange fires flicker,Smudge into sunsets,Which slowly fade to midnight,Pitch black, star freckledContinue reading “Not a holiday, an Adventure”

F’ it! – Fathers Day with a Family of Four!

Ok, it’s a hall mark holiday, some kinda cash raid on mothers, because the kids aren’t paying are they? But when you have grieved baby loss for eight years, that’s eight mothers and fathers days where we have to work through our hybrid status. Childless yes, but not, not parents. Rupert lived for nearly tenContinue reading “F’ it! – Fathers Day with a Family of Four!”

Back Again

Months must have passed. I have moved cities, had another baby, and acquired some well-paid work which gives me pride to mention (maybe I’m not an aching failure) but is as dull as a Manchester morning to talk about. Organisational leadership theory anyone? Thought not. Turns out, being a new-mum-work-bore isn’t enough, and to getContinue reading “Back Again”